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Parent Privilege

Even the most successful of the less-advanced, modern human cultures upon this earth have determined that it is necessary for their citizens to obtain permission for many of the privileges that people are allowed to have. To drive, for example, one must have a license. To do any specialized task that can affect the whole of society, individuals must prove themselves capable of performing the task without producing a result that could potentially harm society.

One must have permission to gain the privilege of being a doctor, for example. One is required to obtain a license in order to participate in the construction trades, thus ensuring the building of safe structures. Modern cultures have determined that permission from the majority must be granted for almost every aspect of human interaction wherein the actions of one have the potential of affecting the life experience of another.

Ironically, however, none of our current modern civilizations has determined the need to issue special permission to an individual to produce another human being. One does not need any particular training, understanding, or ability to become a parent and provide the care and nurturing necessary to a new member of the human race. Although childhood experiences can be linked to almost every problem affecting the security and balance of a successful society, no government has figured out the necessity of making sure a parent has the ability to rear a child properly.

For this very reason, all societies upon this earth have failed. But once the effect of improper parenting finally takes its toll on even the most modern human cultures, humans will begin to realize the importance of proper parenting. The determination will then be made that parenting must be regulated; and only those individuals with the proven capability of proper parenting will be granted permission to do so.

No matter how much food is available, no matter how much specialized education one has, no matter what kind of opportunities are afforded to a human being, if one receives faulty or insufficient training during one’s foundational years, that individual has the potential of negatively affecting the rest of society during his or her adult years. Although contrary to the ways human societies operate upon this earth, it is vital to the peace and order of the entire Universe that, ultimately, no free-willed being is allowed the ability to create other beings, unless found capable of and competent enough to do it correctly.

Why We Need to Treat Parenthood as a Privilege By Laura Carroll


Pronatalist beliefs also condone the right for anyone to have children whenever they want to have them, which leads many people to have children before they are emotionally, psychologically or financially ready.

What kind of story do we see in the news just about every day? Incidents of child abuse. When it comes to child abuse, the statistics in the United States are unnerving. According to the Department of Health and Human Services, in the United States a child is abused or neglected every 36 seconds. This Department also reports that in 2010, "parents, acting alone or with another person, were responsible for 79.2 percent of child abuse or neglect fatalities." And according to the American Anthropological Association, three to five children a day are killed by their parents.

At first it might seem ironic that in our child-centered society so much harm comes to children. There are plenty of wonderful parents, but I bet you'd agree that parenthood is not automatically the right choice for everyone. As these statistics illustrate, you don't have to look very far to find parents who never should have had children.

Why do we see so many people who are unfit to parent? It starts with our belief system around parenthood, which includes pronatalist assumptions that lead everyone to believe they should have children -- even people who shouldn't have them. Pronatalist beliefs also condone the right for anyone to have children whenever they want to have them, which leads many people to have children before they are emotionally, psychologically or financially ready.

When this happens, it not only harms children, but comes at great cost to our society. Who pays for the costs of unfit parents and their harmed children? We do. In 2007, Prevent Child Abuse America conservatively estimated the annual costs of child abuse and neglect at $103.8 billion.

But there is good news. In our current political climate where bipartisanship seems virtually non-existent, child abuse is an area that stands out as an exception. Recent bipartisan efforts of Senators Susan Collins (R-Maine) and John Kerry (D-Mass.) have resulted in the Protect Our Kids Act, which proposes the development of a national strategy for reducing child abuse.

Kerry indicates that the Act will evaluate effectiveness of existing programs designed to "keep children safe from abuse, maltreatment, and neglect." However, more needs to happen for real change to occur, and it starts with mindset change.

Instead of subscribing to pronatalist assumptions that promote irresponsible reproduction, parenthood needs to be treated as a privilege. Despite the pronatalist myth that parenthood is supposed to come naturally -- that somehow the ability to give birth has a strong connection to the ability to parent -- parenthood also needs to be treated like any "job" that requires certain skills and aptitudes.

In our society, driving is a privilege because if we aren't able to drive well, it will result in harm to others. Because parenthood can potentially cause great harm to children and society, and because it's arguably the most important job in the world, it's time we get more serious about holding these same attitudes when it comes to having children.

And we need to translate these attitudes to the development of programs, such as nationally mandating high school parenthood education. It exists in some schools, but more often than not it isn't mandatory, and when it does exist, needs to go further than introducing what's involved in parenting. At this age, young people need to begin exploring their interest, desire and aptitudes for parenting one day.

We need to get more serious about adult parenthood education as well. Mandated educational programs do exist, such as the Parent Accountability Act, which is designed to educate parents of teens convicted of gang crimes. Lots of resources are also out there, but they are largely for parents seeking help once the baby is already on the way, is already here, or when problems already exist. It would be far better to invest resources in programs that are taken before pregnancy occurs to help people assess their readiness on a number of levels, from the financial to the emotional. Developed by experts from a range of disciplines, this kind of program should also be mandated, and designed with serious state and federal incentives, such as tax deductions for completion.

No doubt in today's economic climate, some might initially balk at the costs associated with programs like this. However, cost concerns need to be put against the billions we already pay due to bad parenting and the harm it causes to children. Treating parenthood as a privilege would shift the cost responsibility from dealing with the aftermath of unfit parents to preventing them in the first place.

Children deserve parents who are best suited to raise them, and society has a duty to our children to ensure this happens. Creating tangible ways to treat parenthood as a privilege, such as parenthood program directives, has the potential to powerfully execute this duty.

It's time we stop living by pronatalist assumptions that fail to foster a society in which those who are best suited to become parents are the ones who have children, and commit to one that not just promotes, but demands, responsible reproduction for the benefit of all.

Laura is the author of The Baby Matrix: Why Freeing Our Minds From Outmoded Thinking About Parenthood & Reproduction Will Create a Better World.

Posted: 08/28/2012 | Updated December 6, 2017

The Baby Matrix: Why Freeing Our Minds From Outmoded Thinking About Parenthood & Reproduction Will Create a Better World


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Contents [LINK]

Introduction: Why It’s Time for This Manifesto
1 Awakening to Pronatalism
2 The Destiny Assumption
3 The Normality Assumption
4 The Marriage Assumption
5 The Right to Reproduce Assumption
6 The Offspring Assumption
7 The Fulfillment Assumption
8 The Elderhood Assumption
9 The Transition Has Already Begun
10 Toward a Post-Pronatal Society
The 7 Post-Pronatal Assumptions

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